My mindset has always been that life is a series of things you Have To Get Right or face the consequences of being a Big Failure. That has led me to put immense pressure myself and on many of my individual decisions, including minor ones. As a consequence, I ended up with unreasonably high expectations for myself and others.
My neck hurts from nodding along so aggressively with this self-analysis.
This article has some solid advice if your neck hurts too.